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Infidelity. It's happened to millions of people around the world. We all know about infidelity when it occurs in the lives of the rich and famous - Tiger Woods and Elin Nordegren, Sandra Bullock and Jesse James, Bill and Hillary Clinton - but the truth is that with every relationship and every marriage comes the possibility of infidelity. It doesn't matter how rich, beautiful, powerful, successful or intelligent you are, infidelity doesn't care. It occurs no matter where you live, what career path you've chosen, what religion you p... read more

Dop October 2008, Auckland softcover "How to find love in the 21st century. Increasing numbers of thirty-something people are finding themselves single. This book looks at how to find the right partner for you, by working on what exactly you should be looking for and working on yourself to make sure you're ready for a relationship. Also looks at new dating 'technology' - internet sites, speed dating, etc."

Nothing you have heard about The Game will prepare you for it. Neil Strauss reveals the bizarre world of the pick-up artist - men who devote their lives to mastering the techniques of seducing women. None of this is fiction. These men have their own vernacular and codes of honour, they trade strategies online, attend each other's seminars and live together in houses around the world they call Projects. Strauss spent two years travelling in what is known as the 'seduction community', a secret society of men committed to becoming pic... read more

The workbook that will change your relationship!Are you curious about your relationship? What makes it work? Are you experiencing a rough patch? Can you get out of it? Have you met the right person?Let's be honest about it. Everyone could talk till the cows come home about their relationship, and what's wrong with it, or him, or her. But what do we ever do about it - really do about it - until it's too late? This book offers you an opportunity to put your relationship through a full MOT.Structured along the same lines as Nina's ver... read more

Just as you have a different love language, you also hear and express the words and gestures of apology in a different language. Chapman and Christian counsellor Jennifer Thomas explore the different languages of apology and show how to follow and use this communication tool. First published December 2006.

Gary Chapman first penned the best selling, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate more than ten years ago. The core message has hit home with more than 2 million people, as it focuses on humanity's deepest emotional need: the need to feel loved. This need is felt by married and singles alike. In The Five Love Languages for Singles, Chapman tackles the unique circumstances that singles face, and integrates how the same five love languages apply within their relationships. For example, in a busines... read more

If you are trying to make a decision about your future this book is for you . . . For anyone contemplating leaving a relationship it is an emotional time. Feelings of guilt, fear, loneliness, anger, and indecision haunt you. The search for answers often leads you in emotional circles; well-meaning friends suddenly try to take up the role of counsellor - when what you really need is sound unbiased advice. Advice that provides reassurance and guidance; advise that can help with the difficult questions to be faced. It's a time when y... read more

Using the metaphor of recycling - of vibrant & satisfying new things coming out of the destruction of the old - this book covers children, sex, legal and other practical matters arising from new partnerships in mid-life. Told with frankness and intimacy, it draws upon women’s and men’s experiences and includes comments from professionals and relationship gurus. First published 2000.

Imprint. Shows how to express love and learn to speak the five languages of love.

For everyone who has ever wondered about friends who hurt or reject them, this authoritative book provides invaluable insights and on-target advice on taking actions to understand and effectively deal with problematical friendships. Based on extensive original research, When Friendship Hurts by sociologist and friendship expert Jan Yager demonstrates how, why, and when to let go of bad friends and how to develop the positive friendships (or put more time and energy into existing good friendships) that enrich our lives on every level.

Ian and Mary Grant maintain that the two great human desires are to know that we can love and that we can be loved. In their latest book, they give skills and tips on how to maintain your relationship with your husband or wife. Whether your relationship is flaming with passion or just flaming awful, this entertaining book gives you insights and practical ideas to make your life stronger and happier. You will take away keys and tips to transform your relationship into one that others will envy, full of fun, communication, passion an... read more

Sex is not something people discuss much in New Zealand. We don't often hear conversations about what couples are doing to keep their relationship strong and alive. We often hear complaints about partners' inadequacies or announcements of relationships ending. There is no one right way to build a healthy, happy sexual relationship. It's a living ongoing process that takes place through many interactions and conversations over time as you learn to know each other and how to be together. This book is designed as a manual to guide you... read more

Suddenly Single continues in the same edgy, provocative yet thoroughly pragmatic vein as the author's first book Infidelity:Exploding the Myths, providing sound advice and a relationship guide for women who find themselves suddenly single, whether it be through the death of a spouse, desertion or a broken relationship. Once again based on Julia's experiences as a private investigator; the book will include numerous case studies and be similar in format and style to Infidelity. Following publication of Infidelity, Julia was inundate... read more

This book could save you thousands of dollars in legal fees. Here is helpful legal advice on issues such as property, custody, domestic violence - all the important legal things you need to when you and your partner separate. Presented in easy-to-read case studies with accompanying summaries of key legal points.

Written by two young twenty-something lads around town, PLENTY MORE FISH IN THE CBD is a funny - often downright bawdy - guide to finding 'desirable' women, getting and keeping them. Its great insights into the male mind are invaluable for women too. The authors use the fishing metaphor throughout with chapters on: The Neal-Rhind Classification of Women Theory; Catch of the Day;The Department of Conversation; Dressed to Krill; Before You Go Go; Hook, Line and Sink-Her; The Lure; Setting Anchor; Mating Season; The One That Got Away;... read more

How do I know if he's the one? Is there a seven-year itch? Do chat up lines work and, if so, which ones? There is academic research out there that can answer these questions: Dr Luisa Dillner, author of the Guardian column "Love by Numbers", has sifted through it to give you the facts about flirting, dating, marrying, cheating and much more... Far from the nonsense of typical agony aunts, this relationship advice will be based on science: using extensive scientific fieldwork from psychology and sociology journals as well as ... read more

Falling in love is a complicated, messy, mad endeavour - and staying in love is even worse. But even though we know that it will probably all end in tears (or, at best, tight-lipped tolerance) we continue to pursue it, believe in it, and lose sleep and friends over it. In this nimble and original exploration of love's hidden motivations and hideous manifestations, Anouchka Grose tries to get to the heart of its hold over us, along the way examining relationships between famous couples from Amy and Blake to Antony and Cleopatra, and... read more

Promises of love, loyalty and friendship on your wedding day are probably the most sincere words you are likely to proclaim in your lifetime. They are heartfelt sentiments that will resonate with meaning for years to come. "Wedding Vows and Traditions" contains hundreds of vows drawn from all faith, as well as touching lines from treasured poetry and simple declarations of love and fidelity. Whether you want to find out about the significance of age-old wedding customs from around the world, or uncover the perfect vow to exchange w... read more

Deborah Tannen's bestseller You Just Don't Understand revolutionized communication between women and men. Mothers and daughters often misunderstand each other as they struggle to find the right balance between closeness and independence. They both want to be seen for who they really are, but tend to see the other as failing short of who she should be. Each overestimates the other's power and underestimates her own. Deborah Tannen examines every aspect of this complex dynamic, from the dark side that can shadow a woman throughout ... read more

The Manual is a revealing insider look at how bad boys think, date, and mate and is the perfect addition to relationship books like He's Just Not That Into You and It's Called a Break-Up Because It's Broken. It shows how readers can work the male approach to their advantage. Every guy has at least a little bit of bad boy in him, and The Manual will tell readers what they need to know to counter such tactics in every man.Steve Santagati brings years of experience to the table: as he says, it's like describing a bee sting versus gett... read more